Coulda Woulda Shoulda

Much of my life has been spent playing it safe.  However, right before I met my wife, I made a decision to step outside my comfort zone and live my life free of regrets.  Things that I normally would not have done in a million years, I did.  Had it not been for that change, my wife and I would not be together today. In order to get myself in a state where I actually had the desire to step outside my norm, I imagined what it would be like to reach the end of my days and reflect back on my life if I kept playing it safe.  This exercise gave me the perspective and motivation to make a change. Regrets are typically the result of living life based on fears and the expectations of others as opposed to the results we truly want.  Fortunately, even though we cannot change the past, we have the chance to change the present and future based on what we have learned.  However, we must remember that eventually our time here will be up, so we shouldn't take tomorrow for granted. I wrote the poem Coulda Woulda Shoulda to express what it would be like to live a life of fear and eventually run out of time.

Cra-Z-Dreams Feature Student of the Month: Ryanne Foster

Cra-Z Dreamer of the Month:  Ryanne Foster Sometimes you meet a person who has a light… an aura that glows softly with goodness and compassion.  It’s not forced or calculated but sewn into the fabric of who they are… as much a part of them as their eyes, mouth, hands, and feet.  The first time I met Ryanne was at a career fair at the local high school.  We were promoting our Cra-Z-Dreams life skills programs and she asked for some information.  She later attended one of our Love Yourself First workshops for girls.  Her warm spirit was undeniable and immediately stood out to our instructors.  We absolutely loved having her in class because she affected the energy and helped put the other girls at ease as we talked about self-esteem, self-love, and empowerment.  We later decided that she would be an excellent choice as our May feature student of the month.

Hero Complex: Do You Obsess Over Saving Others and Neglect Yourself?

Do you have a lot of people depending on you?  Do you feel pulled in so many different directions that you might explode?  Are your own needs typically an afterthought, and do you often find yourself addressing your needs later than you should, or not at all? I realize the world isn’t going to save itself, and that everyone in your life needs you desperately (and RIGHT NOW), but hear me out on this one because I speak from experience...

How To Avoid Losing Interest In Your Day Job While Pursuing Your Dream on the Side

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Workaholics Anonymous: Vacation Guilt

Do you ever feel guilty for taking time off?  I could be the only one, but I doubt it .  Vacation guilt is only one of many symptoms of being a workaholic.  Other signs you need to chill out include: Not taking time off in the first place Thinking something will go wrong with the business/team if you are not working Constantly checking work emails on your days off

Broken Rulers: Determining Identity and Value by Comparison

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Anxiety Sobriety: Freedom from Being Overwhelmed

Full of adrenaline, I paced the room with a nervous energy that wouldn’t go away. I tried sitting down, but then instead of pacing I began wringing my hands and rubbing my arms and legs. My body seemed confused… searching for a movement, any type of movement, that would release the energy I was carrying. My mind was spinning, and I’m sure at some point my lips actually moved, mumbling in an attempt to process the flood of thoughts swirling through my brain. It started with one thing I was worried about, then snowballed forward into a torrent of unpleasant thoughts that consumed me with fear and worry. The restlessness extended into the night and I could hardly sleep. For some reason I just couldn’t relax. This might sound quite familiar to anyone who has battled anxiety.